First Time Meeting

This article is focused on meeting swingers for the first time, the things you should and should not do.

You have to remember, just like meeting anyone, first impressions are lasting impressions. It is important that you keep a few things in mind, when you are getting ready to go meet swingers for the first time. Nothing will turn off others faster then someone who shows up looking like they just rolled out of bed. First, be sure to be clean, to shave, check your make-up is up to par and your appearance is impressive, not just acceptable. Be on time! Being late for a date is a sure sign of selfishness; after all, swinging is about sharing! Ok, so now that I have covered the basics, lets talk about where and how to meet.

Swinger Meet In Public:

If you are meeting a couple or single for the first time, a suggestion is meeting in a public place. It should be a place you both agree on, but it should also be somewhere there is enough distraction that you can speak and not worry about others hearing your conversations. Some great places to meet would be in a local tavern or dance club. It should be somewhere that the mood is fun and festive and not dark and quiet. A topless bar could be a nice option.

At the swinger meet:

If this is your first time meeting another couple or single from a swinger's site, your nerves will be racing from the newness and excitement of it all. Now you are all dressed up and you know where you're going and what time to be there. So how do you break the ice? Let's assume you are a couple meeting another couple in this situation. As you approach the people you are meeting, be polite and make eye contact, smile and introduce your wife and yourself. A smile is a perfect icebreaker. If you are meeting for drinks, ask them what they are having and buy the first round. Now while you are waiting for the drinks to arrive, remember what you have learned about them, what was it they liked as in hobbies or things they like to do for fun, and then start a conversation about something that interests them. Remember they need to be comfortable with you and you with them before any swapping can take place.This will definitely put them at ease a bit as well as you.

What to do in a swinger meet:

These are the obvious things to do but should be said because they are often ignored. Be friendly, treat them like you want to be treated. Have confidence in yourselves and do not be shy, as they could look at that like as being uninterested. Flirt a bit! Nothing gets the juices flowing more then a subtly look or a seductive glance, but don't over do it! After the evening goes on, hopefully the conversations have some sexual overtones and thus leading to a possible swap for the first time! If it doesn't work out, then be gracious and accepting if it was their decision not to do anything, maybe they just need more time to get to know you, or if it was your decision, then be polite in declining but be honest!

What not to do in a swinger meet:

You have taken the time to get ready and groom to meet another couple for fun, so keep in mind some things when you meet them. Don't be pushy! Do not walk up and say "hi how are you doing, where's your bedroom?" Also, do not walk up and ogle his wife or her husband, remember drooling isn't attractive! Do not get drunk! I don't know how many times I have met couples and had one or the other get drunk and the whole experience was a mess, so control and maintain yourself. During the course of conversation, stay away from controversial topics, like politics or religion, you are there to have fun! Not to solve the worlds troubles! Do not go into the meet with expectations. By expectations, I mean do not expect them to automatically want to leave and have sex. Though I can't stress enough, you should bring a condom, just in case!